There are many more to list which can be found on the NHS website. Inattentiveness, hyperactivity, impulsiveness, short attention span, careless mistakes, forgetfulness, constantly acting without thinking, little sense of danger, excessive talking, excessive physical movement, avoiding eye contact, unresponsive, getting upset and angry easily, not understanding how others think and feel, getting upset if you ask them to do something, taking things literally, finds it hard to make friends, finds it hard to say how they feel, and getting upset about changes to their routine. On the NHS website the following symptoms are listed for ADHD and Autism: Instead of providing parents with a therapeutic model to work with their child at home, they are labelled with a learning disability and potentially the wrong support is given.
However, many families will go through an 18-month waiting list with CAMHS to have their child diagnosed with ADHD or Autism by accident as so many traits of attachment disorder are similar and the same. This is one of many models which can support families with attachment disorders. His models DDP and PACE use the simple structure of playfulness, acceptance, curiosity and empathy to help families restore secure attachments.
One therapy model was developed by Dan Hughes, an American psychotherapist. There are many therapeutic parenting techniques which can be used and implemented in everyday family life which supports a child and their carers to build positive relationships and secure attachments. Boundaries are important however with a child who has insecure attachments, consequences to challenging behaviours should be dealt with in a therapeutic way and not punitive.Ī child who has been told off will then feel shame which can turn into an overwhelming emotion, one which they will try and avoid by either blaming others, lying about the behaviour, or pretending they don’t care and acting defiant.
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As children get older that learnt thought mutates into many negative thought patterns, and in turn creates responses such as destructive behaviours, aggression, impulsiveness, risk taking, lack of remorse, attention seeking and not being able to accept change or consequences.Īfter this challenging behaviour is displayed most adults will want to address it by putting in consequences and this re-affirms “they are not good enough” – thus completing a full circle and continuing the attachment disorder. When a child cries and the primary care giver consistently doesn’t respond to the immediate need, the child is learning that “they aren’t good enough to have their needs met”. However, the behaviours are a response to an internal working model which may have been embedded since birth. These coping mechanisms which will be seen as behaviours, help them to cope but may be seen as negative, challenging and bad. But for what ever reason it may be, if a child forms an insecure attachment to their primary care giver, they will also form some unhealthy coping mechanisms in the future. For example, a primary care giver may be going through their own mental health issues, or they may be misinformed about “controlled crying” or they may not have the right level of support for themselves in place. Parenting is not black and white and there are many reasons why a primary care giver may not respond in a way which forms secure attachments. This would be developed over time, a parent who didn’t attend to a baby on a rare occasion would still be able to form a secure attachment.
The basis for attachment theory for which there are many studies on, is that as a baby will make attachments to their primary care giver and they are either secure or insecure.Ī secure attachment would form when the primary care giver responds quickly and attentively to the baby’s needs, and an insecure attachment would form if all the needs were not met promptly.
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